Your artcle is very intresting and has much information. We have been attending clubs and know many that are in the lifestyle yet we have only had one experince. We do not regret it but now that we look back we may of jumped into it a bit to fast. Of the two of us she is the attractive one. I make every effort to stay in shape and think i do a decent job considering. She gets most of the attention and i do not mind that as i know why. Our commincation is very good and we talk about everything. Neither of us is jealous and we consider ourselves a package is anyone would want to play. We would tell anyone entering the lifestyle to have great communication and know of what they are getting into. One does not know until they are actually in the lifestyle but one can prepare them selves. As the man in these relationship I think that we may feel a bit more insecure most of the time. Just remember communicate, communicate ,communicate. Once again great article, keep them coming.
I believe that most (notice I say most and not all) women are not as comfortable being assertive enough to make the first move on a man. Most women are more assertive in how they flirt with other women and tend to be more submissive when it comes to the men.
Certainly the women receive more attention than the men. Yet this is not simply a matter of supply and demand.
As experienced swingers, we have found that there is a disparity among couples. More often than not, women tend to stay in shape and keep their youthful, playful nature. Men, on the other hand, seem to let it go. When we really started to look at playing with other couples we were shocked at the amount of 1-Pack abs there are out there. Men list "athletic" on their profiles because they believe that playing football once a week or going bowling with the guys constitutes athletic ability. What they seem to forget is that in order to be considered "athletic" they should currently have an athletic body. To us, this means defined abdominal muscles and the ability to exert one's self without instantly breaking into sweat or losing one's breath.
Our local club has a rule that you must "match your date." When it comes to clothing and style. This is great because we've seen situations where the woman is dressed to kill and the man is satisfied with whatever he pulls out of the closet.
Swinging is another form of dating. If men want more attention they're going to have to earn it.