Chantelle, very nicely written article, and that advice should be headed by all in the lifestyle, if they want to really enjoy all it has to offer. We have been married almost 28 years, and I am by far not the best looking or bigest package male my wife has enjoyed, but there hasn't been any so far that can hit her buttons the way I can. ( but I have had a while to pratice) and I know that, and the same for her with me. We are each others best friends, and love to see each other enjoy new people and experiences. We are always pointing out and commenting to each other, on good looking people we see & meet, just like when guys or girls do when they are out together. And we don't have to worry about how each other is going to take what is said , we have fun together and it has made our relationship stronger. We feel if a couple can't do this , then they probally don't need to be in the lifestyle anyway, because its just going to lead to more drama, and who needs that these days.