You're a swinger who's trying to look at the lifestyle through the eyes of a vanilla. Where on earth did you get the impression that making friends in the Lifestyle is not what you're "supposed" to do? When is friendship ever a bad thing?

Granted there have been a few times that I myself have climbed off of a new playmate and said, "That was hot... What was your name again?" With swinging being so internet driven these days, couples have more and more ways to meet, connect, and keep in touch than ever before. The random anonymous sexual hook-up at a club is becoming less and less common. Sex with total strangers is not the norm in today's modern swinging community. If you really hit it off with someone physically and mentally, you should stay in touch, hang out, be friends. You'll quickly discover that sex is not the only benefit of being in the Lifestyle. There are a lot of amazing people with a lot more to offer you than just their bodies. Most of my best friends are people I've met though the Lifestyle. They are the only people I feel like I can truly be myself around.

If you have "friends with benefits", it's important to enjoy the friends... not just the benefits!

Science hasn't lied to you. I'm guessing that pre-lifestyle, there were probably not a lot of situations where you regularly found yourself in the presence of several naked vanilla men with erections... (Mmmm)... So you're not really getting an accurate random sampling of penises.

The Lifestyle attracts men with cock confidence, or "cockfidence" as I like to call it. A man who has cockfidence is any man who is comfortable and secure with the equipment he has, no matter what size it is. Any man who is able to make the transition from vanilla to swinger is likely to be cockfident in himself. But because so many men in our world base their sexual self-worth on their penis size, men who discover that they are larger than average are more likely to experience an inflated sense of cockfidence.

For this reason I'd surmise that you are probably more likely to run across some larger than average equipment in the Lifestyle more frequently than you would in the vanilla world. However, keep in mind that photos you see on swinger sites can really skew public perception. Those with enormous members are far more likely to post photos of their junk than the average guy.

Frankly, I think it's a shame that when entertaining the idea of swinging, so many men ask themselves, "Do I have a big enough dick for that?"... Because the correct answer is always YES!!!